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Slice of life advice: “My son has no ‘real’ friends and spends all his time online, is he isolating himself?”

Dear Slice of Life,

I am writing to you with a concern that has been troubling me for quite some time now. My son seems to have no ‘real’ friends.

He spends all his time talking online to people, many of whom he’s never met in person. I’m not entirely against online friendships, but I feel he is missing out on the physical presence and connection that comes with having friends in person.

The situation has reached a point where I’m worried that he is isolating himself. His activities are mostly confined to his room, and he seems reluctant to venture out.

I’ve tried discussing the importance of offline social interactions with him, but he simply brushes me off saying, ‘Mum, you don’t understand. These are my friends.’ Is my concern justified?

I need some guidance on how to handle this situation. How do I encourage him to make ‘real’ friends without making him feel like I’m attacking his online friendships?

I would be grateful for any advice you can provide.

Concerned Mother

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Dear Concerned Mother,

Firstly, I want to commend you for reaching out and seeking advice for your son’s situation. It’s evident that your concern comes from a place of love and care. Your feelings are absolutely valid and many parents share similar concerns in this digital age.

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It’s important to acknowledge that the landscape of friendships and socialization has dramatically changed with the advent of the internet.

Online friendships are a modern reality and they can be as valuable and meaningful as face-to-face relationships. 

For instance, they provide opportunities for individuals to connect with like-minded people from all over the world, which can be especially beneficial for those who feel misunderstood or marginalized in their immediate environment.

However, it’s also crucial to have a balance. Face-to-face interactions provide unique opportunities for learning social cues, empathy, and problem-solving skills that are essential for personal development.

Also, physical activities and outdoor experiences are important for mental and physical health.

Try to approach your son with an attitude of curiosity rather than judgment.

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Show interest in his online friends and ask him about them. This can send a message that you respect his choices and can open the door for more communication. By showing genuine interest, you might also encourage him to share more about his online world with you.

In terms of encouraging offline friendships, it’s beneficial to discuss the importance of social skills and physical interactions without directly criticizing his online friendships. Perhaps you could encourage him to join clubs or activities that align with his interests. This might help him to make friends with shared passions.

One example is a mother named Sarah who had a similar concern about her son, Jake. Jake was an avid gamer who spent most of his time online. Sarah encouraged Jake to join a local gaming club where he could share his passion with others.

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In time, Jake formed meaningful connections with people in the club and started to balance his online and offline interactions.

Remember, it’s okay to set boundaries but it’s important to do so in a respectful and understanding manner. Open communication and mutual respect are key in this process. Trust your instincts as a parent, but also try to understand the changing dynamics of friendship in the digital age.

You are doing a great job and your son is lucky to have a caring parent like you. This is a challenging situation, but remember that you are not alone. Many parents are navigating this new landscape alongside you.

Continue to be there for your son and offer your guidance when he is ready to receive it. The fact that you’re seeking advice shows that you’re on the right track.

You’ve got this!

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Katrina E. Shuman
Written by, Katrina E. Shuman
With an unquenchable thirst for unraveling the secrets of the cosmos, Katrina is the guiding star behind our astrology, numerology, and horoscope sections. Her fascination with the celestial realms is intricately woven into every word she crafts, allowing her to seamlessly bridge the gap between cosmic wisdom and everyday life.