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Slice of Life Advice: “my girlfriend turned down my marriage proposal but says she still loves me. What should I do?” – a perplexed lover’s dilemma

Dear Slice of Life,

As an avid reader of your column, I find myself in need of your wisdom today. I recently proposed to my girlfriend, who I love deeply and wish to spend my life with. However, she turned down my marriage proposal. What should I do?

She assures me that she still loves me and wants to be with me. But her refusal leaves me confused and hurt. I can’t help but question if her love for me is as deep as mine for her, or if there are issues she’s not discussing with me. How can I navigate this situation without damaging our relationship?

I value your advice and perspective, which has guided many of your readers through their dilemmas. I hope you can shed some light on my situation as well.

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Yours sincerely, Confused and Hurt.

Slice of Life Advice:
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Dear Confused and Hurt,

First of all, I want to acknowledge your courage in reaching out and sharing your feelings about such a personal matter. The situation you’re in is indeed quite complex and confusing, and it’s perfectly okay to feel the way you do.

It is important to understand that your girlfriend’s reluctance to marry may not necessarily reflect her feelings for you. Her decision could be based on a variety of factors such as her personal beliefs about marriage, her past experiences, or even her current life situation or goals. Remember, everyone has their own perspective on relationships and the institution of marriage.

One approach could be to have an open and honest conversation with her about why she said no. It’s essential to create a space where she feels safe to express her thoughts and feelings without feeling judged or pressured. Understanding her viewpoint can provide you with the clarity you need.

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As hard as it may seem, try not to take her rejection personally. For instance, let’s take the case of John and Mary (names changed for privacy). John proposed to Mary, but she declined despite being in love with him. The reason? She had been through a messy divorce in the past and was not ready to commit to marriage again. John respected her decision, and they continued their relationship, eventually moving in together and building a life without the label of marriage.

Another aspect to consider is what you truly want from your relationship. Is marriage a non-negotiable aspect for you? Or could you envision a future where you’re together without being married? Take some time to reflect on your own needs and aspirations.

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Remember, it’s okay to feel hurt and confused. But it’s also important to keep communicating your feelings, needs, and concerns with your girlfriend. Every relationship has its challenges, but it’s how we handle them that defines their strength and depth.

Lastly, consider seeking guidance from a professional, such as a relationship counselor. They can provide you with tools and strategies to navigate this situation.

Always remember, you have the strength to handle this situation. I hope this « Slice of life » proves useful and do keep coming back for more soon!

Wishing you all the best,

Slice of Life

Katrina E. Shuman
Written by, Katrina E. Shuman
With an unquenchable thirst for unraveling the secrets of the cosmos, Katrina is the guiding star behind our astrology, numerology, and horoscope sections. Her fascination with the celestial realms is intricately woven into every word she crafts, allowing her to seamlessly bridge the gap between cosmic wisdom and everyday life.