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Slice of life advice: ‘is it awful of me to want to be alone on Christmas eve with just the husband and kids?’ – exploring family time, holiday stress, and personal boundaries

Dear Slice of Life,

I’ve been wrestling with a dilemma and could really use your perspective. Every year, my extended family gathers for a grand celebration on Christmas Eve. However, this year, I find myself longing for a quieter, more intimate celebration.

Is it awful of me to want to be alone on Christmas Eve with just my husband and kids?

It’s not that I don’t love my family, but the thought of the usual hustle and bustle, the noise, and the pressure to keep up appearances is making me feel overwhelmed.

I don’t want to disappoint my family, but the idea of a peaceful Christmas Eve at home, just us, feels so appealing right now. How do I navigate this without causing hurt feelings?

Yours Worried,

Seeking Solitude

Slice of life advice: 'is it awful of me to want to be alone on Christmas eve with just the husband and kids?' - exploring family time, holiday stress, and personal boundaries
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Dear Seeking Solitude,

I completely empathize with your situation. As much as family gatherings can be heartwarming and joyous, they can also be exhausting, especially when all you yearn for is a tranquil and intimate celebration. Your feelings are valid, and it’s not awful for you to want a quiet Christmas Eve with your own nuclear family. In fact, it’s quite natural to seek solace in the quieter moments of life, particularly during these stressful times.

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First and foremost, it’s essential to remember that your needs and feelings are as important as everyone else’s. The holiday season, though traditionally a time for extended family, can also be a time for you and your immediate family to create your own traditions and memories. There’s no hard and fast rule that states you should spend every Christmas Eve in a certain way.

As for navigating this delicate situation, open communication is key. Consider having a frank discussion with your family, expressing your desire for a quieter evening this year. Ensure them that your decision is not a reflection of your feelings towards them, but rather, a need for some tranquility and relaxation.

It’s important to be honest but gentle. For example, you could mention how much you’ve enjoyed previous gatherings, but this year you feel the need for a change. You might say something like I really cherish our family traditions and I love spending time with you all. But this year, I feel a deep need for a quieter, more intimate Christmas Eve. I hope you can understand and support our decision.

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A real-life example that comes to mind is of a woman named Susan who faced a similar dilemma. She was apprehensive about breaking the news to her family but found that when she did, they were more understanding than she had anticipated. In fact, some of her family members confessed that they too had entertained the idea of a quieter celebration but had been too worried about disappointing others to voice their thoughts.

Remember, it’s your holiday too, and it’s okay to celebrate it in a way that brings you the most joy and peace. This decision doesn’t have to be a permanent one. You could always return to the grand family celebrations next year if you choose.

However, if you find this situation continues to cause significant stress or anxiety, it might be beneficial to seek professional advice.

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Ultimately, you have the power to shape your own Christmas experience. A peaceful, restful holiday season could be just what you and your immediate family need to recharge and start the new year on a positive note.

Remember, we’re always here to provide an empathetic ear and practical advice. Please don’t hesitate to reach out with any other issues you may be facing.

I hope this « Slice of life » proves useful and do keep coming back for more soon!

Wishing you a peaceful and joyous Christmas,

Slice of Life

Katrina E. Shuman
Written by, Katrina E. Shuman
With an unquenchable thirst for unraveling the secrets of the cosmos, Katrina is the guiding star behind our astrology, numerology, and horoscope sections. Her fascination with the celestial realms is intricately woven into every word she crafts, allowing her to seamlessly bridge the gap between cosmic wisdom and everyday life.