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Slice of life advice: i just lost my pup of 12 years and am devastated, how do I cope when friends don’t understand my grief?

Dear Slice of Life,

I just lost my pup of 12 years and am devastated.

My friends just expect me to carry on as if nothing happened.

Yours Devastated,

Lost Pup’s Parent

 

Slice of life advice: i just lost my pup of 12 years and am devastated, how do I cope when friends don't understand my grief?
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Dear Lost Pup’s Parent,

I’m so sorry for your loss. The pain you’re feeling is valid and normal. Losing a pet is losing a family member and it’s a heart wrenching experience.

It’s important to understand that everyone’s grieving process is unique. Your friends might not understand your pain because they have not gone through the same experience. That doesn’t mean your feelings are invalid. It’s okay to grieve and take your time to heal.

The first thing you need to do is to allow yourself to feel the pain. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to cry, to miss your pup, to feel the emptiness. These are all valid feelings and a part of the healing process.

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Next, communicate your feelings with your friends. They may not realize the depth of your loss and how much it’s affecting you. Let them know that you’re going through a difficult time and need their understanding and support.

Remember, it’s also okay to seek help. If your feelings of devastation persist and you find it hard to move on, consider seeking the help of a professional therapist. They can provide you with coping mechanisms and strategies to deal with your loss.

Take care of yourself. Try to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Exercise, eat well, get enough sleep. These can all help in dealing with grief.

Finally, consider honoring your pup’s memory. This could be through a photo album, a keepsake, or even a memorial in your home. This allows you to remember your pup and also provides a form of closure.

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For instance, Jane, a reader who lost her cat last year, found comfort in creating a small garden in her backyard in memory of her pet. Not only did this provide her with a way to remember her cat, but it also gave her a sense of peace and acceptance.

You have the strength to get through this difficult time. Remember, it’s okay to grieve, it’s okay to ask for help, and it’s okay to honor your pup’s memory in your own way.

We’re here for you and will continue to be a source of support as you navigate this difficult time. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need more guidance or just someone to listen.

I hope this « Slice of life » proves useful and do keep coming back for more soon! And remember, it’s okay to seek professional help if your feelings of devastation persist.

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